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I struck oil — and turned my health around

No, I didn’t go prospecting in a Texas field, but I want to share with you something that’s enriching my health big time.

Most of us go through our lives reaching for over-the-counter remedies any time we have an ache, pain or discomfort. I thought nothing of taking a pill for this or a syrup for that. I popped ibuprofen like they were candy. Any small twinge and I’d reach for some chemical concoction.

Well, I’m fighting back with essential oils. Essential oils are derived from flowers, seeds, shrubs, trees, roots and bushes. The aromatic oils are extracted from these plants and distributed to us in concentrated form.

I’ll admit I was very skeptical at first because how could oils take the place of stuff I get at the drug store? And if they were so great, why aren’t more people using them?

Well, I did find out a lot of people do use essential oils, and it just takes spreading the word about the awesome benefits.

Here are some of mine:

  • I haven’t had to use allergy medicine since I started taking lavender.
  • Ibuprofen and I are no longer buddies.
  • A drop or two of lemon oil in a glass of water is super refreshing — goodbye soda!
  • I sleep like a baby after using a combination of oils for peace and calming.
  • Oils have taken the edge off stress.
  • Peppermint eases my stomach, unclogs a stuffy nose and gives me a natural jolt — without the caffeine.

It feels so good to slowly begin to detoxify and knowing I have a choice of trying something that Mother Nature/God provided for us first before resorting to something created in a lab.

If you decide to try essential oils, go for quality. I use Young Living.

Take charge of what you put in and on your body — your organs will thank you.


The power of feeling good

We’re always on the run.

Rushing to get to work on time. Chaperoning kids from one activity to the next. Figuring out what to make for dinner. Finding time to work out. And of course all the stuff that needs to be done around the house.

We check off our to-do lists and I suppose that’s one way to measure accomplishment, but I want to suggest another gauge: HOW DO YOU FEEL?

Do you feel good at the end of the day? Do you feel good about the direction you’re heading in life? In your career? In your relationships? In your health? In your spirit?

In our harried lives, we’ve forgotten what makes us feel good. We put our desires aside. We tell ourselves there’s plenty of time later on to focus on our needs. Maybe the better question to ask yourself is HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL?

Do you even know? I didn’t, until I sat down and thought about it. It was powerful. You’ll see.

Right now, think of 5 ways you want to feel.

I’ll do it with you.

My 5 are: healthy, present, connected, sexy and purposeful.

Now try to match them up with what your day is like. Any alignments? If you said no, I bet you’re in the majority. But the beauty of this exercise is that you are now aware of what you want to feel, so start doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to get there.

Walk or bike to the store. Leave a lunchbox love note for your spouse or children. Spritz on your favorite perfume. Eat fruit instead of cookies for dessert. Ask that person out on a date. Start planning your spring and summer garden. Freshen up your resume because you can’t stand your current job. Take a 20-minute nap — the dishes aren’t going anywhere. Make love in the afternoon.

Let me know what you are going to do to feel good.


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Kicking the “sugar” addiction

The conversation goes like this:

Me: You look great!

Friend: Thanks!

Me: (in my head) That’s it? Didn’t she notice I got a haircut? Plus, my eyeliner went on perfect today, and the scale said I lost 1.2 pounds!


Me: I love you.

Boyfriend, husband, significant other: Aww, that’s really sweet.

Me: (in my head) What?! Why didn’t he say I love you back? Did I do something wrong? But he said I love you yesterday??


Me: I just put up a blog post I worked really hard on.

FB and Twitter: Dead silence.

Me:   😦

You see what I was doing, right?

I was desperately looking for a return on my investment.

I was whoring for compliments.

I needed a little sugar, but all I tasted was the bitterness of my own insecurities.

You see, there was a time I wasn’t genuine in my giving. I was giving just to get. The truth is that depending on other people to validate you is an emotional coaster you don’t want to get on. The co-dependency can be downright crippling. You look good only when someone says you look good. You think you are effective after you get a certain amount of social media attention. When you feel needy, you want to hear I love you  just to make sure you’re worth those three words.

Like a junkie, I was looking everywhere for the high. It was hard to believe me on my own. But my darlings, here’s another truth: you have the power to meet your own needs. Exercising that power takes time and practice.

Start practicing: What if you, for one day, your intention is to PURELY dole out your love, spirit, kindness and joy?

What if you let go of seeking a response? What if you unchained yourself from needing approval?

Feels good, right?

Breath it in, baby.

Something I rarely talk about

I kicked off the “My Story” page telling you I am a daughter of immigrants. I didn’t expand on it there because at the time I considered it is a small — although unique — identifier.  But the more I thought about it, the more it I realize that my experiences deserve some time and space.

They had a much greater impact than I want to give them credit for.

My parents were born in China. My dad arrived in the United States when he was a boy so he became fluent in English. On the other hand, my mom made it here after my father returned to China to marry her so her language skills have always lagged.

They settled in New York City and raised five children. I am the oldest. I was sent to parochial school (I wasn’t Catholic) where, for a while, I was the only Asian student in the entire school. My folks did what they thought was best — that private school offered a better education — not knowing the potential stress of putting me and my siblings in a situation where not only were we ethnically different, but religiously. I was there for eight years.

My childhood was filled with instances of being mocked at school, on the streets, in stores, etc. I’ve been called it all — name the slur or stereotype and it’s been aimed at me.

I wanted to spit at them.

But this isn’t a sob story.

It’s about how I learned to live and love, and refused to internalize all the hate that was flung at me.

It’s about how I chose to stay REAL.

Resilience. The truth is that if we allow other people’s opinions, ideas and rants to get under our skin for too long, then we’ll start to believe it. It will fester, clear a path for negativity to course through your soul and erode the beautiful person you are. What people say is about their own securities, their own problems. It’s not a reflection of your true who. Therefore, I let hateful talk bounce off me, and I pray that the perpetrators will release the darkness within themselves.

Embrace. If you love something, embrace it. If it feels just right, embrace it. Hold your friends close. Hang on to your values. Put your arms around whatever it is that makes you feel alive and healthy. I’ve learned to weed out people, places, ideas and expectations and get to the CORE.

Am. I am. You are. That’s it. Just be, my darlings. Pretending sucks up way too much energy. You don’t have to work that hard. I used to want to be blonde with blue eyes. I used to want to impress people for my own ego. I used to say yes when I really meant no.

Love. Love extends, transcends. I’m not talking mushy love — although that has its place. I mean kindness, compassion, joy, listening, extending a hand. People often take their cues from how you treat them. So if I act from a place of suspicion, closemindedness, hate, anger, insecurity or fear, guess what I’ll get in return? Let go and let love, baby.

January sizzle, power up and other stuff

Can I tell you how awesome January is?

It’s month No. 1, new beginnings, fresh starts, clean slate, first steps — new, new new.

A time to shed any of the yuckiness you may have experienced in 2011.

A time when there are NO excuses to postpone projects, whether you want to kick ass at a new health regimen or kick ass launching a business. JUST KICK ASS!

A time to say YES to living how you truly want to.

This is not the time to SHRINK back from what you are meant to do. I know you feel it in your gut. Your grand plan really wants to come into the light but your fear is keeping it in the dark. That fear is telling you that you might fail, that you’ve got too much to lose, that not enough people are going to support you, etc. etc.

BUT … What would it be like if did not hand YOUR POWER over to the fear?

You OWN the power — don’t even think about giving it away.

Be selfish with YOUR power.

USE that power to propel you.

Now that’s what I call hot living.

I’m also thinking about …: Yes, I am on a health kick like everyone else since that is also what January is about! I’m currently going through the book “Crazy Sexy Diet” by Kris Carr. You can read up on her at She’s got an incredible story, and it motivated her to reevaluate her food choices. Now, she practices a vegan lifestyle.

Has anyone read her book or done her cleanse?